End. Begin. Continue.

Excited about the new year? Many people are. People are ‘pumped’ with starting something new  and fresh that would changed their lives. Gym subscriptions begin rising, new diets are intended, changes in looks, and the list goes on and on. Generally the excitement of the new year lasts just a few days. The routine takes over and we completely forget about new year’s resolutions. The fact is that changes and getting used to changes won’t happen in a day, or a week. It is said that it takes a minimum of 21 days to develop a habit. What we forget is that there are no new beginnings without endings and that the line between the two is not as thin as it looks. There is a period of transitioning from ending to beginning.

William Bridges explains in his book Transitions – Making Sense of Life’s Changes how to understand change in order to cope with it. Life is a continuum full of endings and beginnings and are often the transitions that are the most difficult times to endure. We leave behind experiences, people, things, practices, habits, and thoughts to move on into new ones but it doesn’t happen magically at midnight like in a fairy tale. Changes take time and we humans don’t like that. We want things to happen right away, don’t we?

What if you decide to make changes happen instead of waiting for them to just happen? Visualize the ideal you. Be wise in doing this. Don’t visualize yourself in comparison with someone else. Be realistic. The ancient Greeks defined ‘sin’ as ‘missing the mark’. If you go too high, too low, or to the sides you are missing the mark. Can you see it? Now, consider what needs to be done in order to achieve that visualization. What does it take to get there?

Educate yourself. Listen to the experience of others. Weight their points of view in light of your context and needs. Follow what fits your vision. Try new things within your means. Some risks and leaving the comfort zone are necessary. Stop doing what is not working for you. Keep doing what is working so far. End. Begin. Continue. Results take time. Enjoy each achievement. Most importantly, love what you do. Life is incomplete until you are complete. Life is only complete when you are not. Is the transition that matters and makes a continuous change in you.

Painting With No Meaning

Blue Roses

Blue Roses

“What does it mean?” That is probably one of the top ten questions people ask when they look at a painting. Certainly not all paintings must have ‘a meaning’. Some paintings are to be felt, others are interpretations of nature, and others are just a way for the artist to deliver a technique for personal amusement and practice. Painting with no meaning is very satisfying indeed.  All you want to do is to enjoy the process. If someone else finds meaning to it and likes it is a plus.

In my last studio days of 2014 I did just that: painting to explore a technique and have fun. I am a sculptor and prefer sculpting much more than painting. However, I enjoy painting from time to time. I approach painting the way I approach sculpting. I begin with the pose. I work on basic shapes and then work smaller areas until I ‘build’ the figure. I am not looking for meaning or some intellectual and spiritual awakening. I just study the figure. I try to understand the intricacies of the muscles and their reaction to movement. It is delightful to observe how muscles expand, stretch, and contract. You can feel it in your own body.

blue roses process

The process begins by tracing that pose I want to explore. I trace just the lines with paint. I love lines. I apply some shading as a guide. ‘Filling’ the figure with color helps provides a foundation on which I will shade and form the muscles. For me is very important to follow the fiber of the muscle with my brushstrokes. It provides a sense of volume. It also helps to accurately shape the anatomy. Before I work on the details of the anatomy I try to surround the figure with color as in providing a setting (which is generally empty space for me but it provides visual sense). The surrounding colors also help me decide the colors for shading the figure.

selfie with blue rosesDetailing the muscles is very challenging but so much fun. I work one small area at a time and connect the muscles until the figure is complete. Hair comes after. To add a little something to the composition I added flowers this time. I was going in different directions with the flowers once I added the blue roses (which were originally purple) close to the head. First, and that was the original idea, I wanted to create a ‘u’ shaped frame of flowers and vines on the bottom half of the canvas. It was too much for me. The next idea was to just add a few flowers closing the figure at the bottom. I was not feeling it either, so I left it like that with just three blue roses. The rest is about cleaning up the details. After about 12 hours I was very satisfied with the result.

Here We Go Again!

Hello, 2015! Here we go again!

long hairTo be honest, the first thing that came to my mind was that song. Yes, you know which one. You are singing it in your head right now. Let’s go back in time for a moment. “Here I go again” from Whitesnake… Go ahead, sing along!

I don’t know where I’m going
But, I sure know where I’ve been
Hanging on the promises
In songs of yesterday
An’ I’ve made up my mind,
I ain’t wasting no more time
But, here I go again
Here I go again

I don’t know where I’m going either but one thing is for sure: I don’t have to walk along the lonely street of dreams by myself. I’m grateful to God for my wife, my kids, my extended family, my church and my friends. Their support, friendship, motivation, and inspiration mean a lot to me.Last year was tough. We faced many challenges but we made it. Those challenges made us stronger and wiser. We had great times too. Many of them! I’m sure the good times were more than the bad times. Let’s not let the bad memories cloud the good ones. With all the challenges that the year might bring, we can still make this year a great year. Let’s enjoy the simple things in life. Let’s change a life. Enjoy the people around you. Live more and worry less. Bring it on, 2015! Let’s do this! Here we go again!

100 Years From Now

FreedomFast forward to 2114. New years eve 100 years from now. A completely new generation is ready to celebrate. If we went from horses to space shuttles in 100 years it would be interesting to imagine how the future holds. Marty McFly from Back To The Future made it to 2015. It really doesn’t look like that although we have many things they didn’t think about back then. Nevertheless, we probably won’t make it to 2115, but would someone remember you?

Probably nobody will remember you. The truth is that most people is forgotten 40-50 years after they die. Only a handful of people remain remembered from a long time. Would you be one of them? If so, how do you want to be remembered? Do you want people to remember the things you did? Maybe you want them to remember how you related with others. Maybe both. What would you like people to remember about you?

While you think about that I want to wish you a very prosperous 2015 full of achievements and treasurable moments. Make the best of each moment. Let the people around you know that you love them and that you care for them. Be the best at what you do and enjoy it. Happy New Year!

Resolutions and Goals

Photo Nov 22, 10 38 29 PMIt is that time of the year! Many are figuring out their new year resolutions and goals.  The desire of making something different for a new year is very common. We know most of them are carrying on from previous years. We also know that desiring to do something is not enough. Resolutions are decisions or determinations to accomplish something. Action is required.

Goals on the other hand require a plan and commitment to achieve results. Goals require preparation and lots of work. Self-regulated individuals know all about being ready, taking action, and being committed to a plan. The results often reveal their efforts. The most important aspect of self-regulation is intentionality. Self-regulated individuals are not only capable of controlling their impulses but also do this intentionally. It is a decision followed by a plan. The plan is then followed by commitment and action. Achievement comes as a result.

Achieving a goal is not the only benefit. Cognitive psychology explains that reaching a goal also improves self-efficacy. Our perceptions to reach a goal transcend the domain in which we reached success but to other areas in our lives. A cycle of improving self-efficacy continues as goals are achieved. Cognitive psychology suggests therefore to set achievable short-term goals towards a larger goal. Which each step we feel closer to the finish line, more willing and stronger to continue.

This year set up your goals and make a plan. Remember to set realistic achievable goals and break down those goals into short-term goals. Be firm in your decision to accomplish your goals. Commit to your plan. Keep track of your progress and celebrate each accomplishment one short-term goal at a time. I wish you all the success for the new year.